When we realize that much of our judgment toward ourselves and toward others is based in fear, we can step back unemotionally and assess if that concern is even still valid or us. It could just be an old cassette track looping through our minds. Many times it's an "I'm not good enough" or "I don't want to stand out" track that we really need to shelf. Yet, when we can bring into our conscious mind, thoughts and fears which are no longer serving us or protecting us, we have amazing opportunities for growth. It is in that moment of conscious clarity that we become creator of past, present and future.
During the show I illustrated this point by talking about my toes. For most of my adult life, I was ashamed of my toes. In fact, despite some genetic resemblance to other family members' feet, I thought my feet were ridiculous looking. For me, it was the second toe on my right foot. Longer than the toes beside it, it made me feel freakish when I was bare-footed or in sandals. All I could see when I looked at my foot was that one toe. And, like most things that we have assessed and cataloged, I never really looked my foot with opened eyes again.
Then one day, amazingly, rather than looking at that one toe, I looked at the ones beside it. And for the first time in my life, I noticed that they were shorter than their companions on my left foot. What? The long toe wasn't long? The other toes were short! Really!?! And in that moment, I had this immense love for that one toe. How it must have been the one to help steady me since my "big toe" was short. How it probably offset the ill effects of having these two short toes.
By really seeing myself in that moment, consciously, I learned something huge about myself. This one incident made me wonder what else I thought I was seeing but was really not seeing. It opened doors to exploring senses and gifts long-since shut down. I began to see realities beyond what I could have imagined, both for myself and others.
When you are able to observe yourself in judgment of self and others, you have an opportunity in that moment to transform fear into love. You can choose (because our power is in realizing and seizing the choices) whether you want to own that fear. Try it on for size ... actually feel that which you are fearing. Many times in this exercise, too, you realize that the fear is just an outdated program that you no longer need.
See, hear, smell, taste, feel with not only your physical senses but also your imagined and multidimensional senses such as intuition, knowing, sensing, empathy, etc. As you do so, find and embrace the things that make you laugh and dance and sing. There you will find another door to your self and the gift you are here to share with us.You CAN change the world when you change the way you see the world and yourself within it!
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Here is the audio from this segment of Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst.