I have recently been able to understand and let go of the expectations that were causing me pain in my life! Wouldn't you love to do that too? I have realized that the values I hold for myself, and those you hold for yourself, color our experiencing of others in the world. So when we realize the filters we have on our perception, we can more easily see around those filters.
Let me set this up with an example. I am definitely a "man of his word" kinda gal. If I say I'll do something, I will. If I'm part of a group, I am not a bystander. I volunteer, get involved, take action. And, I know when others say they'll do something and eventually don't, I can end up feeling disappointed, betrayed, even rejected.
But, let's face it; we're not all alike. We have different strengths, different values, different life paths that have brought each of us to any given shared moment in time. So to expect someone else to be experiencing life as we do, or having the convictions that we do is both unrealistic and unreasonable.
Expectations and judgments are filters through which we experience self and others. Although the expectations and judgments vary, this topic comes up frequently when I'm assisting someone in a Perspective Reboot® intuitive energy healing session.