Why do we have time for the pain? Why do we hold space for the pain?
Good questions, right? I am coming to think it’s somewhat ingrained in our human nature. Five things happen to us in a day … four of them loving and positive and one negative. It’s that negative singularity that commands our attention.
Why do we focus on that thing that we don’t like? Why do we give it power to control our happiness? Why do we let it affect our relationships with others who are there to love us? Let’s not just skip over this; perhaps it’s a truly profound question and also a key to the next level of happiness.
Each of us needs to invest in ourselves and answer these questions in our own unique ways. What if the answers you receive illuminate some of the key ways YOU are HOLDING YOURSELF back from being yourself … your True Self. What if your focus and clinging to the negative is the key thing limitation in your life?!?
This need to focus on that negative thing is frequently rooted in “the original wound”. What, is the original wound … it’s that part of each of us that most needs healing. Typically established in our childhood years, it’s like a scab that can continually be ripped off, perhaps when we least expect it. Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!
The Impact of One's Original Wound
For me, having been told to hide my healing nature as a very young child … essential change who I AM … that wound is the acceptance from others. It’s been a process working through it. The analogy to peeling an onion is so appropriate in this process. Yet the absurdity of the other’s judgment is actually facilitating my release.
Here I am, someone that can assist others to heal where previously there has been no relief, release, recovery. I am unusual and I am not trying to blend in with everyone else. I have boldly stepped forward to unveil myself. So I stand out by nature and yet I am also carrying a focus on others’ acceptance and/or rejection of me … something I will, in most cases, never attain.
What is My Original Wound?
Pause for a moment here and ask yourself “What is my original wound?” “How does it impact and limits my daily happiness?” As I relay my process, think about how you can apply it to your own unique situation. May it bring you a Perspective Reboot® or at least some ideas of what layers you need to address in your own healing.
Two nights ago, I was revisited by the rejection of a former friend. This is someone with whom I had a decades-long friend/sisterly relationship. As soon as I started Healing Resonance, she “dropped me”. On Friday she saw my brochures displayed in my chiropractor’s office (she refers me to patients who are holding deep emotional blocks, wounds or traumas). This “lost sister” explained that she “used to know me” before I got weird, yet asked the doctor to say “hi” to me. She apparently looked at my brochure and put it back.
The “hi” message and relaying of the conversation (particularly the part about knowing me in the past tense) hit me like a blow to the heart. I felt that rejection from 3 years ago as if the scab was ripped off. I tried to put the pain away, but there it was.
Life went on. I attended the light-filled memorial service for a friend’s mom. I saw some friends I hadn’t seen for a while and was enveloped in love. The pain was still there. I had a healing session with a client who has gone from physically and emotionally ailing to thriving. I was elated, but the pain was still there. Thirdly, I received an email from someone I had met earlier in the week encouraging me to keep shining my light.
I was responding by email and relating how buoyed I was by the writer’s sentiment when the absurdity of the pain paradigm struck me. Here was this former friend, coming together with my chiropractor due to their mutual interest in local land trusts. She was passionate about saving open land, but she couldn’t support my Healing Resonance passion for assisting other humans. Her apparent disconnect or perceived separation between the need to heal people and the need to preserve our beautiful planet struck me, and in that instant my heart mended.
To Thine Own Self Be True
When we take another’s view of us as our identity, we are essentially setting ourselves up for struggle, pain, rejection, and a roller coaster of other emotions. It is rare that someone else’s opinion of us is now, nor ever has been, the Truth. No two of us can stand in exactly the same spot nor have exactly the same filters/stories/wounds, so we will never see another clearly [please see “Will We Ever See Eye-to-Eye”] unless we see with the eyes of unconditional love.
Our focus, however, must be to clearly see ourselves. Identifying and releasing the hold that the old wounds have on us frees us to be our authentic selves. Conversely our wounds, our fears and our acceptance of others’ judgment may be the only thing holding us back from being who we are here to be. Let it go! Let it go … if you need assistance, I am here.
You were born perfect. You are perfect. Release the situations, words, energies that have or currently mask that reality from your own view. We are here to be that special radiance, that unique genius, that wonderful expression of perfection … expressed mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. In doing so, we make this “reality” better for each one and the whole. It is why we are here!
All is Well; ALL is Forgiven ~
Being rejected bites, but ultimately, we have to know ourselves and know what is and isn't “real”. I accept that she cannot see me, but I still see myself. I acknowledge my free will and go within to that ultimate place of inner peace, calm and beingness.
I thank those who have trusted their hearts to me and those who have cared for my heart. I thank those who have served as guides and those who have served as thorns in my getting to this point of balance. I send love to and ask forgiveness of those for whom I have been a thorn. “I haven’t got time or the need for the pain!”
I am grateful to be alive. I choose happiness. I choose joy. I choose self-expression. I choose goodness. I choose to live as the one I am here to be for The One. Find your unique expression of joy, goodness, love and light and release that which no longer serves you. Replace pain with love and light!
From my heart,
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