This is one of my favorite photos that my sister-in-law captured at Joe's and my wedding in 1980. It captured a magical quality which was surely present that day. What it doesn't show you is that when I said "I do" I didn't believe that our marriage would last forever. While I told myself I believed in happy endings, deep inside of me, there was a girl who did not. It took me nearly 10 years to get out of my childhood story ("I will never have children because I won't put my child through the pain of divorce").
Seeing the current situation clearly at that point, I asked if we could renew our vows on our 10-year anniversary. We started our family 2 years later. We've been in a nurturing/harmonious marriage for nearly 36 years now, together 40 years this-coming September. Spirit spoke to me when I met this man "he's The One" and fortunately neither of us (more specifically me) sabotaged that calling.
Yet, it happens all the time, doesn't it? We lose the great-for-us thing that's in our hand because we are caught up in a past-tense story of what should/would/could be or a future-tense fear-driven panic of what if/how can I/how will I! Or we are dwelling on a deep-seated hurt that might not even have anything to do with us. Perhaps the situation didn't even directly involve us ... we were just on the sidelines, but we somehow got derailed!
We look at the others in our life and wonder "how can he/she treat me this way or that way?" I was recently asked in session, "How could my own mother treat me this way?" Perhaps she too, did not get what she needed from her mother and/or father and was/is doing the best she can with what she has. The Higher Truth is that, while we are all eternal aspects of love and light, we are all operating from the skewed perceptions of our 3rd dimensional human bodies. From these spaces in which we experience and perceive, we cannot always access the entirety of what we are and what is real. And, perhaps that is "by design"! From a compassion and unconditional love perspective, I would share that, as a mother, I believe we all aspire to do better for our children than what we experienced.
We Are Not Seeing Things the Same Way